Protect Your Inner Ego From Environmental And Social Darts

Social Darts

How can you remain calm and composed within a difficult environment? The following are some simple tips to help you handle these challenging situations.

Imagine that you are a Dart Board and the people and things around you have become darts. These darts are headed for you and they seek to destroy your self-esteem and pull you down. Don’t let them destroy you, or get the best of you. So, how do you avoid these darts?

Dart #1: Negative Competition

Do not become part of the “dog eat dog” philosophy. You do not have to fall prey to the thinking that you must fight to get ahead by defeating those around you. Healthy competition exists in almost every work place, but you do not have to become part of a culture that seeks to succeed by destroying others. Measuring yourself against others rather than being the best you can be can ultimately ruin your self-esteem.

Dart #2: Behavior Of Others

Avoid negative people. Gossip-mongers, whiners and backstabbers are always looking for someone to join in their negativity. Such people will only drag you down to their level and, when you least expect it, you may become their target.

Dart #3: Fluctuating Environments

Change is inevitable. You need to be flexible. Changes can make life difficult for awhile, but it provides ways for you to improve. Change often is for the better, even though it does not appear so at the time because you have become comfortable with your routine.

Dart #4: The Past

Everyone has negative past experiences. But don’t let the past dictate your future. Do not allow past pain to transform into paralyzing fear. Treat each failure and mistake as a learning experience.

Dart #5: Internal Pessimism

Do not fall into the trap of negativity. You are surrounded by many positives. We live in a wonderful world. You just need to consider all the positive things you have going for you. Do not overlook your health or the possibilities of the future. Many situations you view as negative will actually be turned around and become wonderful springboards to a new and better day. You just need to be patient and keep your eyes open.

Dart #6: Mistaken Identity

Many people subscribe to the nature versus nurture theory: you are either the product of genetics or environment. These people often believe that you cannot escape the tentacles of your childhood, spouse, workplace, friends or the economy. However, you are a unique individual. You are not defined solely by any of these things. You have your own identity. Do not let others define who you are.

You may wonder if some people are born leaders or positive thinkers. Positive thinking is not an inherited trait, it is a choice. Building self esteem and improving yourself is a choice.

Of course it is easy for a disinterested third party to say be positive when you are in the middle of the crises of life and they are not experiencing your particular challenges. And, it is even harder to stay positive when things and people around you keep pulling you down. Nevertheless, when you feel like a dartboard that every dart is aimed at, there are three things you can control in the face of the onslaught: your attitude, your behavior and your way of thinking.

Building your self-esteem will lead to self-improvement. The first step to self-improvement is being responsible for who you are, what you have and what you do. You are who you choose to be. When you take control of your life by having a positive attitude your self-esteem will increase. Self-esteem brings about true self-assessment, and self-determination.

So where do you start? Be positive. Be contented and happy. Be appreciative. Never miss an opportunity to give someone a compliment. Be gracious in receiving compliments, you deserve them. Living positively will help you build self esteem. This is your starter’s guide to self improvement.